Friday, April 9, 2010

Day 3- I'm not used to quiet....

It's quiet here, almost too quiet. My cousin (ok, not blood-related cousin, but really should be, since she is family anyway) came down this morning and took E for the day. It is giving me the chance to rest and not worry about the baby's every need. Honestly, it's wonderful. I'm getting the rest I need, and I know E is thoroughly enjoying herself with the other kids. Today is an example of people doing what they can to help. My parents need to work, and so does my husband, so my cousin came and took E so I wasn't alone here with her. Awesome. Tonight, the hubby has a fishing tournament on the Cape and will be gone until tomorrow. I know he feels guilty about it, but he has a lot of stress right now and needs a way to relieve that. My aunt is coming down to stay here and help out so hubby can go and I won't be alone all night. Again, awesome. How would we do this without family and friends? I don't even want to know what it would be like.

Which leads me to the family who I know would kill to be here, but can't. The hubby's family miles away in the Mid West. I want you to know that just because you are not here physically, your emotional support has been insurmountable. Calling and messaging every day to see how we are, and to tell us how much you love us and wish you were there. To be honest, that's a lot more than what I've gotten from some people who live in the same area.

And this leads me to talk about my disappointment. I have been trying to avoid this, but it is bothering me too much. Maybe I expect too much, or maybe it is just common decency that when you have a friend who is having a hard time that you call them or even send them an email. I am very disappointed that some people (whom I would have expected would have been the first people on the telephone) haven't even tried to email me, never mind call, to ask how I am doing, or how my brother is doing. Look, I am not someone who does the "poor me" stuff, but honestly, this has been one crappy week for me and my family. I think that warrants a phone call or an email, don't you?

On the flip side of all of this, there have been many people, good friends, family, and even people whom I would never expect, reaching out to help, whether it be by calling me, texting me, emailing me, or coming to see me. I love all of you and you will never know how much your care and support means to me and hubby.

Ok, now on with the positive. Here is my list for today:

1) My brother has been moved to a regular room, no more ICU.

2) I am getting a day of total rest.

3) I felt the babe move today, and it reminded me how important it is I do what the doctor is ordering.

4) I am finally sitting down and watching a movie I've wanted to see for a while.

5) I am looking forward to some visitors this weekend.


So, there is it, my list of 5. Not the list of 1o I had yesterday, but 5 is better than nothing.

1 comment:

  1. We are so glad to hear that you are resting today. Sounds like "Baby Boy Rottman" is doing well and adjusting to his temporary home. That of course is wonderful news. Call if you want or need anything from the Midwest...Whitey's, Happy Joe's, etc. We will see what we can do. Of course it may take a day or so but we will get her done. Love from MN

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